This post has been many months in formation, mainly because I lacked the inspiration to write it and I really did not want to give into Nathan’s insinuation that all I ever talk about is love and relationships. (Love makes the world go round, right Nathan? Or was that money? I forget…)
A friend recently broke up with her beau. It was not surprising. In fact we had seen it for close to 5 months. (Notice how I said we). The thing is although we see it coming, it does not make it any easier dealing with the feelings of rejection (especially if you were the dumped) or frustration (because we failed to keep it going), regret (because you invested a lot into the relationship) and so on.
In fact, I think about the only thing that people agree on is that the time they spent investing in the relationship, they won’t ever get back. Precious thing, this thing called time.
My question is, when you are going through you deep dark depressive moments, do you miss the person or do you miss the things you used to do with the person?
Interesting question. Every time I ask it, I get very fascinating answers, most of them stemming from the fact that people are in denial and just don’t want to actually acknowledge that their “missing” is actually as a result of expecting/experiencing pre-determined activities.
I will not waste any more of your time. I present what I miss about not having a boyfriend.
- Having that one person you can squeal on your friends to.
- Having alternate people to hang with as opposed to your own set of family and friends.
- Having a warped view of life present through conversations.
- Talking someone into buying you stuff you don’t sincerely want
- knowing that you wont stand awkwardly at the party by yourself in a corner
- Knowing there’s that one person who doesn’t care that you cant sing or dance but doesn’t mind that you will occasionally attempt to do both
- Having a person to burn food for and they have no choice but to eat it and say it tastes nice
- Having some one to comfortably sit with in silence
- Having someone you can call up to say something silly about what’s going on with you… like how good your nails look
- Having someone you can share your goals with and vice versa
- Having someone who actually listens to you
- Weighing in on decisions in someone else’s life
- Being with someone who sincerely likes you
- Being with someone who will laugh with you and not at you
- Being with someone who makes you laugh more than cry
- knowing this someone has limits and so do you and learning what to do with those limits to compliment each other
I think 17 is a good number to stop at.
think 17 is a good number to stop at.